My Aunt Bernice was one of two Godmothers. She was a fantastic lady. She loved with her whole heart and wore it on her sleeve.
She was incredibly in tune with her feelings and emotions.
She never had any children, so she treated her godchildren like one of her own.
She was a bookkeeper her entire life and did taxes as well. She branched out independently and became an entrepreneur after dedicating years to a job that never treated her with the respect she deserved.
It’s funny that until now, I thought she was a pushover because the man in her life was not great and did not treat her well. I saw how emotional she was, but she chose to stay.
I realized now that she had an underlying steeliness because anyone who starts their own business has to have some grit and determination.
And when life constantly beats you up, and you have no support, you don’t know how to do better, only what you were taught.
My gift in this moment is that, once again, nothing is as it seems. Never count someone out, and you never know what someone is going through unless you get in the trenches with them.
She was an obese woman, and her self-confidence at times took a nosedive. The one thing she prided herself on was her hair; you were NEVER allowed to touch her hair. LOL. She would be so mad. I can still hear her.
She was a strong woman, giving a lot of herself to others.
If I have learned anything from Bernice, it is:
· Size does not matter
· Don’t count showing your emotions as a weakness
· Go after your dreams, and don’t stop
· Never allow someone to treat you like garbage, and love yourself enough to let go
· Nothing is as it seems
· You never know what someone is going through unless you get in the trenches
· Love hard even if they don’t love your back; be the bigger person
· Live life with no regrets
· Go after the thing and be your own boss
· Surround yourself with amazing people to give you the support you need
Do you have an aunt or a Godmother who treated you like their own child?
We would love to hear about her.
If you are struggling this holiday season, remember that it's okay not to be okay. Reach out to someone you trust and have a conversation. If you're in a dark place, call 9-8-8.
In your grief remember the good times, the great times and live life for them!
With love and gratitude.
Dorothy
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